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The picture was taken from yourtango.com<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Power: when you feel like equal partners.<\/em><\/strong> True Love<\/strong>: 2. Independence: when you retain a sense of self.<\/strong><\/em> True Love<\/strong>: 3. Trust: when you both feel safe.<\/strong><\/em> True Love:<\/strong> 4. Support: when you have each other\u2019s back.<\/strong><\/em> True Love<\/strong>: 5. Freedom: when anything seems possible.<\/strong><\/em> True Love:<\/strong> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The picture was taken from yourtango.com 1. Power: when you feel like equal partners. Toxic Love: The balance of power tips in one direction or … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1126,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[61],"class_list":["post-1125","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychology","tag-toxic"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1125","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1125"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1125\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1127,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1125\/revisions\/1127"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1126"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1125"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1125"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1125"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nToxic Love:<\/strong>
\nThe balance of power tips in one direction or it swings back and forth so you\u2019re never quite sure where you are or what\u2019s going on. A toxic partner is typically controlling, either in obvious, dominating ways or through passive-aggressive, threatening, guilt-inducing means. They\u2019ll always want their own way. If you\u2019re with a toxic person, you\u2019ll feel insecure, pressured to do things you may not want to do and constantly as though you\u2019re dancing to someone else\u2019s drum.<\/p>\n
\nThere\u2019s a balance to the relationship. You\u2019re not controlling your partner nor are you having your strings pulled. The number one clue is that you\u2019re NOT scared of your partner, you\u2019re not always worrying about what mood they\u2019ll be in. You don\u2019t feel a knot of anxiety in your stomach when you see them coming: you\u2019re relaxed and happy to see them.<\/p>\n
\nToxic Love<\/strong>:
\nYou do EVERYTHING together. You\u2019re totally immersed in the relationship, neglectful of old friends and important relationships. You let go of your own interests\/friends in favour of doing everything your partner does and, slowly, you lose your sense of self which lands you in a co-dependent relationship. Co-dependence can also develop as you wrestle with a partner\u2019s addictions, mental health or other issues. But, no matter where it came from, planning your life entirely around another is not healthy.<\/p>\n
\nYou keep your boundaries; you insist on having time to yourself (even if time is in short supply). You see your own friends, you stay true to your favourite activities and you\u2019re not afraid to do things alone. Importantly, your partner encourages you to do so.<\/p>\n
\nToxic Love<\/strong>:
\nYour partner has a history of letting you down or making poor choices, which feeds your insecurity within the relationship. This may also be your own issue, borne of difficult experiences in your past. A lot of people have difficulty with trust\u2014 if that\u2019s you, it\u2019s worth working on so you don\u2019t sabotage a potentially great relationship.<\/p>\n
\nYou feel safe physically, sexually and emotionally. You don\u2019t feel pressured to do things their way. You trust your partner with the Big Stuff and to stick to the agreements you have in your relationship around sex, money, kids, porn, alcohol\/substance use, health issues and the like. You trust them to listen to your point of view. And they know you\u2019ll listen (and hear) theirs.<\/p>\n
\nToxic Love<\/strong>:
\nWhen you need support you can never be sure your partner will be there for you. Often, they\u2019re not. Or they might be \u2014 as long as they don\u2019t have something bigger going on themselves.<\/p>\n
\nNo matter what, you know your partner to be in your corner with a hug, a coffee, a kind word. When you\u2019re spinning out over something, they\u2019ll help you see the reality of the situation. And they can count on you always.<\/p>\n
\nToxic Love<\/strong>:
\nYou feel trapped, stuck. You feel like your relationship is limiting your life. You\u2019re not happy with your partner \u2014 and they\u2019re not with you. You both want to change things about the other so the relationship is going nowhere fast.<\/p>\n
\nYou each accept your partner for who they are. You want the best for each other and you go out of your way to help your partner achieve their plans and dreams but not at the cost of yourself. You are free to be and do what you want \u2014 together or independently. And, ironically, that makes you want to stay.<\/p>\n