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The definitive trait that sets narcissists apart from other people is their compulsive need to be adored.<\/p>\n
Narcissists, unlike psychopaths, are still very much human. They need to eat, sleep and socialize to be happy. They need careers and hobbies to feel fulfilled. But, above all, they need to be admired. I know, because I am one.<\/p>\n
I realized this, of course, with help of other people. Humans are exceptionally good at spotting things in others they cannot spot in themselves. I am no exception. Narcissists attract other narcissists, and I had plenty of material to study.<\/p>\n
In\u00a0short, narcissists participate in admiration-for-admiration games. I pat your back, you pat mine. As long as it keeps going, we\u2019re both happy. When this unspoken rule is broken, we\u2019re going to have a fight.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re not willing to participate in these games, the best thing you can do is leave. Otherwise, you\u2019re going to make your narcissist very unhappy. Here are a few sure-fire ways you can make a narcissist miserable.<\/p>\n
Investigate.<\/strong><\/em> In their mind, they are the central source of authority. Narcissism does not imply stupidity, so narcissists will often mask their superiority complex by throwing around names or quoting a news article, but deep down they think they know better.<\/p>\n Investigating their core beliefs is a sure-fire way to piss them off. A non-narcissist will have no problem identifying the sources of their beliefs. They will point to a particular book or life experience that made them believe what they believe. Your investigation may elicit some surprise or unease, but not anger.<\/p>\n A narcissist, on the other hand, will turn more and more aggressive the deeper you dig down their belief system. For a narcissist, their very views have become their source of authority. To question their views is to question their worth, which spoils the fun. I came here to be admired, not to be questioned.<\/p>\n Ignore.<\/strong><\/em> Much like the opposite of love is not hate but indifference, any strong emotion towards a narcissist is essentially acceptable. Love me. Hate me. But never, ever, ignore me.<\/p>\n Ignoring a narcissist is the equivalent of cutting off the drug supply to an addict. When someone is reliant on consistent admiration, they will accept it in almost any form. You can get batshit at a narcissist, and all they\u2019ll see is that they\u2019re still important to you. Which means, good.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why we call these people emotional vampires. They literally satisfy\u00a0their\u00a0emotional needs by eliciting emotions in you.<\/p>\n Most narcissists aren\u2019t bad people. They often don\u2019t even realize the effect they have on others. Like most of us, they do things that make them feel good.<\/p>\n But be warned: all of your passionate efforts to change their mind will just make the problem worse. You battle addiction with abstinence, and you battle narcissism with quiet indifference.<\/p>\n Confront.<\/strong> Don\u2019t try to justice your way through this. Narcissism isn\u2019t a crime, and no evidence or witnesses will help you win this. You can\u2019t prove something that wasn\u2019t clearly defined in the first place.<\/p>\n What you can do instead is talk about your own feelings. \u201cI hate it when you ghost my texts\u201d is a strong, definitive statement. \u201cYou\u2019re a ghosting narcissist\u201d is an opinionated accusation.<\/p>\n Use the \u201cI\u201d language as your last line of defense. It probably won\u2019t work. It\u2019ll probably just feed their ego. But you\u2019ll know deep in your heart you did everything you could to salvage the relationship. The rest is up to them.<\/p>\n medium.com<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The definitive trait that sets narcissists apart from other people is their compulsive need to be adored. Narcissists, unlike psychopaths, are still very much human. … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1540,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[60],"class_list":["post-1539","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychology","tag-narcissists"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1539","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1539"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1539\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1541,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1539\/revisions\/1541"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1540"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1539"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1539"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1539"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nNarcissists absolutely hate it when their authority is being questioned. They thrive on half-truths and taboo subjects. One of such subjects is their authority. Nobody likes it when their authority is being questioned, but narcissists tend to take it for an insult.<\/p>\n
\nSome people believe that you can somehow \u2018argue\u2019 a narcissist into changing his mind. That\u2019s not true. Arguing is an expression of dissatisfaction and anger, which falls perfectly onto the love-hate dynamic narcissists feed on.<\/p>\n
\nConfronting a narcissist is weird. You never really have the proper \u2018evidence\u2019 to do so. And if you try to point out certain behaviors that \u2018prove\u2019 their narcissism, it\u2019s probably you who\u2019s going to look like the crazy, sensitive, overreacting one.<\/p>\n