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Shocked and confused<\/strong> You discard them and they\u2019re stunned, thinking, \u201cWait, what? I don\u2019t remember this scene in the script.\u201d<\/p>\n This is not what they\u2019d envisioned. They\u2019re not quite sure what happened.<\/p>\n Hurt, then angry<\/strong> Despite that and even if they have several other sources of supply, being discarded is a huge diss, a major cause of\u00a0narcissistic injury.<\/p>\n This triggers immense, deep-seated internal shame and fear about the truth of who they are. They feel rejected, humiliated, abandoned. It\u2019s too painful to stay in that place of despair, so they quickly shift to narcissistic rage.<\/p>\n Validated and vindicated<\/strong> Your leaving has proved to them they were right. They think\u2026<\/p>\n She\u2019s crazy. Amused<\/strong> The\u00a0challenge of winning\u00a0you back only to punish, then discard you is icing on the cake.<\/p>\n Relieved<\/strong> They have already secured abundant supply from their\u00a0flying monkeys\u00a0and will get ever more when you discard them.<\/p>\n This narcissist experiences relief, \u201cIt\u2019s about time.\u201d<\/p>\n How do you feel about discarding the narcissist?<\/strong><\/em> Shocked and confused Remember the narcissist is playing a role in the reality of their creation. Your role is their leading man\/lady and top … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1848,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1847","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psychology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1847","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1847"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1847\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1849,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1847\/revisions\/1849"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1848"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1847"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1847"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1847"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nRemember the narcissist is playing a role in the reality of their creation. Your role is their leading man\/lady and top flying monkey. They have used power and control to train you in your role.<\/p>\n
\nLook, it\u2019s true that the narcissist never loved you. They may have thought they did, because they don\u2019t know what love is and process feelings in a disordered way, but to them you were always an object.<\/p>\n
\nThey were already devaluing you. Given their\u00a0lack of whole object relations and object constancy, they already saw you as \u201call bad.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nHe was just using me.
\nI sure dodged a bullet there.<\/p>\n
\nA discarded overt narcissist may feel amused, quickly followed by \u201cGame on.\u201d Picture a giant holding a tiny person at arm\u2019s length while the person struggles and punches the air. This narcissist feels so superior, so much more powerful, they find your discard amusing.<\/p>\n
\nThe covert narcissist that has been\u00a0unmasked\u00a0has been\u00a0living with the enemy, you, since. They have been upping the ante on your torture to get you to leave, thinking for months or years now, \u201cWhy is it taking so long?\u201d<\/p>\n
\nProud of yourself for hurting them, just like they hurt you so many times?
\nUnsure of yourself? Like maybe you made a mistake?
\nGuilt and shame about hurting them, rejecting them? Like you\u2019re incapable of unconditional love?
\nScared about what they\u2019ll do next and whether you\u2019ll be able to resist if they try to win you back?
\nRelief that you\u2019re finally free?\u00a0Ready to start your healing journey?
\nMost likely you feel many, if not all, of the above. What matters is how you transcend and transform those feelings to move forward.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"