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1: The more I love myself, the less it matters if anyone else does.<\/strong> This is natural, and it\u2019s also evolutionary.<\/p>\n We are programmed to seek social acceptance because as far as our primitive brain is concerned, it keeps us safe from the dangers of the wilderness.<\/p>\n I am with my tribe, therefore I am protected from the Sabretooth Tiger.<\/p>\n Today, though, the Sabretooth Tiger is social rejection, criticism from others, or online bullying.<\/p>\n So, many of us seek the approval of others in order to avoid these \u201cTigers.\u201d<\/p>\n In the process, though, we tend to lose ourselves. How do we know who to please? If we\u2019re accepted by one group but rejected by another, are we REALLY accepted? Why don\u2019t\u00a0they\u00a0like me, too?<\/p>\n It is\u00a0impossible\u00a0to make everyone happy. You can be the best tasting fruit in the world and there will still be someone who hates fruit.<\/p>\n The only answer is to build a sense of fulfillment and validation from within. To live by a value system that YOU choose. To live with integrity and dignity. To do good, and contribute to others.<\/p>\n To feel good\u00a0about\u00a0yourself when you are\u00a0by\u00a0yourself.<\/p>\n The better you feel about the life you are living, the less you\u2019ll care what anyone else thinks about it.<\/p>\n 2: I am worthy of everything I desire.<\/strong><\/p>\n Many people are chasing after goals or external validation because they feel it will finally make them \u201cworthy.\u201d Worthy of respect, worthy of love, worthy of self-acceptance.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing: NOBODY who achieves these external goals, no matter how big, will tell you it was the goal that made them happy with themselves.<\/p>\n In fact,\u00a0most of them\u00a0will tell you that achieving the goal didn\u2019t actually change their self-view at all. They simply felt a nagging need to accomplish something bigger and better.<\/p>\n This is because that sense of worth doesn\u2019t come from an external source. It is already within you. Your inherent value as a human is yours from birth and will be there for all of your days. It does not increase or decrease based on your net worth, your follower count, or your relationship status.<\/p>\n Understanding that you are worthy of the love you seek\u00a0whether or not\u00a0you accomplish your goals will help you approach them with more courage, knowing that your value\u00a0does not depend\u00a0on whether or not you achieve them. It is yours already.<\/p>\n 3: I live my life with intention.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ve heard from\u00a0thousands\u00a0of people over the years that they\u2019re \u201cwaiting.\u201d Even my most\u00a0highly successful clients\u00a0find themselves waiting at times.<\/p>\n Waiting for the right person to come along.<\/p>\n Waiting for that big opportunity.<\/p>\n Waiting for the next paycheck.<\/p>\n Waiting for\u2026something.<\/p>\n Waiting doesn\u2019t bring you what you want.\u00a0Intention\u00a0does.<\/p>\n Beginning each day with intention allows you to\u00a0choose\u00a0how you want it to go. It keeps you focused and moving\u00a0forward,\u00a0towards\u00a0whatever it is you\u2019re going for.<\/p>\n The love of your life, the big promotion, the six-pack abs, the college degree, the fulfillment you seek\u2026none of it is simply going to show up on your doorstep.<\/p>\n In fact, waiting around for it is the surest way to avoid it altogether.<\/p>\n The life you desire must be created, and nothing worthwhile was ever created without first setting the intention to turn a vision into a reality.<\/p>\n 4: I minimize stress by focusing on the bigger picture.<\/strong><\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019re stressing out over a big presentation at work, or approaching that person you\u2019re attracted to, or making your goal weight by that trip to the Bahamas\u2026<\/p>\n While any individual goal is worth fully pursuing, it\u2019s important to keep things in perspective.<\/p>\n Life is long (if we\u2019re lucky), and it is comprised of MANY different areas. Relationships, experiences, love, health, fitness, exploration, travel\u2026<\/p>\n The story of your life is vast and varied, and it contains a plethora of facets that eventually illustrate our time here on earth. When we \u201czoom out\u201d and look at the bigger picture, we stop focusing so much on making each individual piece \u201cperfect.\u201d<\/p>\n The very beauty of life lies in its lack of perfection. The flaws, the nuances, the idiosyncrasies. Those are where the best stories live.<\/p>\n Life is greater than the sum of its parts.<\/p>\n 5: I choose to learn from failure.<\/strong><\/p>\n Highly confident people take more risks because they understand\u00a0failure is not the opposite of success \u2014\u00a0it\u2019s a necessary part of the journey. Mistakes help you learn, grow, develop, and find out what works. They don\u2019t avoid it, they embrace it.<\/p>\n How many people do you think avoid making difficult decisions because they might be wrong?<\/p>\n How many people refuse to take risks because it might not work out?<\/p>\n How many people stay inside of their comfort zone because it\u2019s all they\u2019ve ever known?<\/p>\n A lot.<\/p>\n Like\u2026a lot.<\/p>\n The one thing they have in common is that they tend to remain stagnant, because progress requires risk. It requires the willingness to be wrong, since that is the very essence of learning.<\/p>\n If you only pursue the \u201csafe bets,\u201d you\u2019ll never put yourself in a position to learn something new. You simply keep running in circles around a little track you already know.<\/p>\n That\u2019s predictable, boring, and frankly, below your abilities.<\/p>\n Of course we all\u00a0like\u00a0to be right, but not everything we like is good for us. Sometimes the best tasting food is the unhealthiest.<\/p>\n The willingness to be wrong helps us learn and grow beyond our current level of knowledge. If we tie our identities to always being right, we\u2019ll do everything we possibly can to reinforce that requirement.<\/p>\n This means shrinking ourselves to avoid risk of being wrong.<\/p>\n But if we tie our identities to\u00a0learning,\u00a0we begin seeking what is\u00a0true.<\/p>\n When truth is the goal, learning becomes the result.<\/p>\n 6: I value QUALITY of relationships over QUANTITY of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Who is it that you\u2019ve always been able to count on in your life? For some, it\u2019s biological family. For others, a lifelong friend. For some people, it may even be a pet, or a connection made online years ago.<\/p>\n Maybe, it\u2019s\u00a0yourself.<\/p>\n The lesson is this: This person, or people, don\u2019t need you to prove yourself to them.<\/p>\n They love and support you as you are, today.<\/p>\n They are the important ones. They\u2019re the ones you make proud simply by being yourself.<\/p>\n They are the ones who stand by you when the masses dissipate.<\/p>\n They\u2019re the ones who really matter. Not the \u201cfair weather fans\u201d who only stick around you when times are good. They will come and go like a summer breeze.<\/p>\n Even if it\u2019s just yourself that you\u2019ve always been able to count on,\u00a0you\u00a0will always be there.<\/p>\n That friend, that family member, that online acquaintance \u2014 they don\u2019t support you because of what you do (or don\u2019t) do\u2026they support you because of who you are.<\/p>\n 7: I. Am. Enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n This isn\u2019t some platitude or affirmation to recite to yourself in the mirror every day.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not me comforting you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not me coddling you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not me trying to convince you that you\u2019re \u201cenough\u201d just how you are.<\/p>\n This is the\u00a0truth\u00a0of reality.<\/p>\n You deserve the same love and happiness that you see others enjoying because\u00a0you are enough.<\/p>\n You deserve to accomplish great things because\u00a0you are enough.<\/p>\n You deserve to live a life that sets your soul on fire because\u00a0you are enough.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not a simple thing to internalize, understand, or believe.<\/p>\n You will have to challenge yourself, to be disciplined, to build credibility with yourself over time.<\/p>\n You will have to set goals and achieve them.<\/p>\n You will need to\u00a0prove this\u00a0to yourself if you really want to believe it.<\/p>\n But whether or not you believe it doesn\u2019t change the fact that it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n You are just as worthy as any other human who has ever lived.<\/p>\n It\u2019s time you started believing it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" 1: The more I love myself, the less it matters if anyone else does. 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\nWe all want to be liked by others. Loved, even. ADORED, some might say.<\/p>\n