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Poisonous comments<\/strong> These passive-aggressive attacks are just leaks. It\u2019s a small dose of what they truly feel for you on the inside. And these attacks will often get under your skin because you never expected them.<\/p>\n For instance, you just got a job that you\u2019re really happy about. Instead of them congratulating you and just letting you have the moment, they go ahead to quickly spell out all the disadvantages that could come with the job.<\/p>\n \u201cI heard workers there don\u2019t last that long before losing their jobs,\u201d they might say, looking sincerely concerned but hoping to wipe that big smile off your face.<\/p>\n They are always competing against you<\/strong> For them, their definition of success is surpassing you. No matter how high they achieve, they won\u2019t feel they\u2019ve won if it\u2019s below yours. Why?<\/p>\n Jealousy comes from a feeling of inferiority. As a result, people who are jealous of you will tend to compete against you to prove to you \u2014 and themselves \u2014 that they are better than you.<\/p>\n But the hard truth they don\u2019t understand is that the mere fact that they are competing means a part of them is aware that you\u2019re better. If they were really better, then there wouldn\u2019t be any competition in the first place.<\/p>\n Competition fueled by jealousy is much more prevalent in an environment where you\u2019re often in close proximity with the envier, like a sibling, a friend, or a colleague at work.<\/p>\n For instance, whenever you\u2019re having it rough at work, maybe your boss scolds you for doing a job badly, and you notice that they\u2019re suddenly having the best day. As\u00a0psychotherapist Araya Baker put it,<\/p>\n \u201cThey often seem to wait eagerly for their target\u2019s humiliating slip-ups, especially public ones, and seize every opportunity to correct and condemn them.\u201d If you frequently notice patterns like this with someone, you need to watch out. You can be sure that person has their eyes on you.<\/p>\n They undermine your achievements<\/strong> There was this girl who everyone knew had a great voice. She wasn\u2019t the best, but she had great potential. And we all knew it. But only one person struggles to accept it: Our voice trainer.<\/p>\n He rarely praised her. But whenever she went a bit off, he would look so disappointed. The look more or less communicated \u201cyou\u2019re just a terrible singer who will never make it.\u201d<\/p>\n We knew this was off because our trainer doesn\u2019t treat the rest of the members the same way. But for this particular girl, it was like the sound of her voice gave him headaches and he couldn\u2019t wait to short her down at the tiniest errors.<\/p>\n People who are jealous of you often want to tamp you down. And it\u2019s because they see something in you that threatens them. This is even more true if you\u2019re different.<\/p>\n For instance, you\u2019re the only one in your family who has a passion for art or music. You\u2019re hardworking, and your talent keeps growing. But for some reason, a particular relative cannot just admit how special your talent is.<\/p>\n Instead, he or she will always refer to the fact that you\u2019re wasting your time with a pipe dream. And they\u2019ll do it in a very hostile way, almost as if your talent irritates them.<\/p>\n They are eager to cling to you<\/strong> But this idea isn\u2019t strange to most of us. Think about it. We\u2019ve all come across friendships (and relationships) that started great. But as time went on, we started to realize that this close person has been torn in our flesh. This is the whole idea of emotionally abusive relationships.<\/p>\n As Robert Greene also put it in The Laws of Human Nature,<\/p>\n \u201cPeople who feel envy in the first place are often motivated to become our friends\u2026 But as they draw closer, the problem gets worse. The very traits that might have stimulated feelings of inferiority are now being witnessed on a daily basis.\u201d Sure, not everyone eager to cling to you is jealous. However, when the signs of passive-aggression and jealousy begin to come up, you shouldn\u2019t ignore them because of that initial friendliness.<\/p>\n They gossip about you<\/strong> Gossiping is a way for jealous people to let go of some of the pressure of their bottled-up emotions. When you\u2019re not there, they can freely vent about how you\u2019re not that special.<\/p>\n For instance, they may tell people who admire you from afar about your weaknesses. You\u2019re just another average person who\u2019s just lucky, anyone could be like you.<\/p>\n \u201cGossip is a frequent cover for envy, a way to vent it by sharing malicious rumors and stories,\u201d Robert wrote in the Laws of Human Nature. 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\n\u201cA major sign of envy attack is often preceded by little bites \u2014 offhand comments expertly designed to get under your skin.\u201d \u2014 Robert Greene, The Laws of Human Nature
\nThis quote comes from the 10th law (The Law of Envy) from Robert Greene\u2019s book, The Laws of Human Nature. According to Robert, jealousy or envy is often bottled up by those who are experiencing it. And because of this suppression, it will usually leak in what he called \u201cPassive-aggressive attacks.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nA study\u00a0published in the European Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology showed that when people are jealous, they are more motivated to compete against you.<\/p>\n
\nConversely, when you\u2019re crushing it, feeling like you\u2019re having the best day, they suddenly become moody, like your success is an offense against them.<\/p>\n
\nI was once in a music band where I had the worst experience of the side effects of jealousy.<\/p>\n
\nThis is an interesting one. As\u00a0studies show, the same traits that make people jealous of you could also motivate them to want to be friends with you in the first place.<\/p>\n
\nThe most dangerous thing about jealousy is that the person feeling it isn\u2019t aware of it. In most cases, if you\u2019re jealous of someone, other people will most likely see it before you do (if you ever see it).<\/p>\n
\nThis is the friend who appears to be happy for you in your presence but will undermine all your achievements in your absence to make themselves feel better.<\/p>\n
\nThis is also partly why people love celebrity scandals. Our admiration for them often exists alongside envy, which often makes negative celebrity news will quickly go viral. You\u2019ll begin to hear morality talks like \u201ceverything is vanity in the end\u201d even if these people will trade places with the celebrity in a heartbeat if they had the chance.<\/p>\n
\nJealousy isn\u2019t just difficult it\u2019s felt, it\u2019s also difficult for the person receiving it. It\u2019s always very unsettling to be disliked for your successes and virtues. This is why sometimes, it\u2019s difficult to accept it when we see these signs in people, especially if it\u2019s someone already close to us. No wonder the American actress\u00a0Bette Midler once said,<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/tipsforahealthylife.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Jealousy-is-a-good-indication-that-youre-doing-things-the-right-way.-People-never-get-jealous-of-losers.-1280x720-1-300x169.jpg\")
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