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Spoiler Alert!<\/p>\n
Nothing.<\/p>\n
You can\u2019t do anything about it.<\/p>\n
People are all fundamentally selfish.<\/p>\n
Even the most altruistic human on the planet prioritises their own self-interests over others.<\/p>\n
This is neither good nor bad, it\u2019s just how it is.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s talk about it.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve recently been going through hell.<\/p>\n
My life got turned upside down through a series of events that I had no control over.<\/p>\n
Worst of all, my 92 year old grandad got Neumonia and was stranded in Scotland, thousands of miles away from where I am in Istanbul.<\/p>\n
I love my grandfather a lot.<\/p>\n
I used to see him everyday when I lived in the Highlands of Scotland.<\/p>\n
But as of today, I haven\u2019t seen him in 5 months.<\/p>\n
My mum has been worried sick about him and has told everyone she knows about the situation.<\/p>\n
In return?<\/p>\n
The people offer condolences and encouragement.<\/p>\n
But the truth is, they don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n
And why should they?<\/p>\n
They have no idea who my grandad is.<\/p>\n
They\u2019ve never met him.<\/p>\n
They don\u2019t know his unique mannerisms or even know what he looks like.<\/p>\n
This isn\u2019t a bad thing, it\u2019s just the way things are.<\/p>\n
People have their own problems to deal with.<\/p>\n
They simply don\u2019t have time to care about yours too.<\/p>\n
Thankfully, my grandfather has recovered and is fighting fit again.<\/p>\n
But he\u2019s not getting any younger, and frankly, we know we\u2019re running out of time with him.<\/p>\n
One day he\u2019ll be gone.<\/p>\n
And what\u2019s worse is, within a few years, most people who knew him will forget about him.<\/p>\n
What was once a walking, talking universe will one day be reduced to nothingness.<\/p>\n
An absence where there used to be life.<\/p>\n
A dissapearance where ther was once a presence.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t say this to make you sad.<\/p>\n
Because the exact same thing will happen to you.<\/p>\n
There are ancient kings who fathered thousands of children and conquered distant lands.<\/p>\n
No one remembers these people either.<\/p>\n
Where I live in Istanbul, Mustafa Kemal Ataturk is rightfully revered as a Godlike figure.<\/p>\n
Without him, there would be no modern Turkey.<\/p>\n
But aside from whenever you catch a glimpse of his image, how much time do people actually spend thinking about him?<\/p>\n
My guess is not a lot.<\/p>\n
The same will happen to you and the sooner you realise this, the better.<\/p>\n
When people let you down in some way, don\u2019t blame them.<\/p>\n
They\u2019re simply following what they believe to be the right decision.<\/p>\n
In fact, you should learn to expect it.<\/p>\n
When you refuse to accept reality, you are setting yourself up for unnecessary disappointment.<\/p>\n
Just because people are empathetic, doesn\u2019t mean they actually care.<\/p>\n
Sure, they can feel sympathy for you.<\/p>\n
They can offer words of encouragement and support you.<\/p>\n
But they will never care about your life as much as you will.<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s your life, you should care about it more than everyone else.<\/p>\n
No one is going to save you.<\/p>\n
No one is going to give you what you want.<\/p>\n
You have to make it happen for yourself.<\/p>\n
This doesn\u2019t mean others can\u2019t help you along the way, just don\u2019t expect them to care as much as you do.<\/p>\n
People are left disappointed all the time.<\/p>\n
Just think about all the failed business partnerships and marriages that ended in messy divorces.<\/p>\n
None of these people went into their arrangements expecting them to fail.<\/p>\n
But life happens and personal priorities get prioritised in favour of what you want.<\/p>\n
When you accept this truth about humans, you become free from despondency.<\/p>\n
You no longer get your hopes up and believe the hype when someone promises you the world.<\/p>\n
You realise that most situations are out of your control and that you can\u2019t force anyone to do anything against their will.<\/p>\n
This is freeing.<\/p>\n
Instead of trying to make someone love you, you just leave them be and let them come to their own decision.<\/p>\n
Instead of trying to force someone to believe something, you just leave them alone and let them discover their own truths.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t want this article to become a moody Morrissey song.<\/p>\n
But upon reading it, it certainly seems to be seething with negativity.<\/p>\n
This wasn\u2019t my intention at all.<\/p>\n
Many of the spiritual gurus I\u2019ve heard speak about this topic highlight how empowering this truth genuinely is.<\/p>\n
It makes you understand your fellow man on a much deeper level than most.<\/p>\n
But I also have to offer a caveat.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not saying that no one cares about you.<\/p>\n
You care about you.<\/p>\n
Your family cares about you (a lot).<\/p>\n
Your friends\u00a0do\u00a0care about you too.<\/p>\n
They just don\u2019t care about you as much as they care about themselves.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s all I\u2019m trying to say.<\/p>\n
When push comes to shove, even the people closest to you will prioritise themselves over your needs.<\/p>\n
This is an inescapable fact of life.<\/p>\n
Unless you\u2019re as enlightened as Jesus Christ, or any other awakened being, you\u2019re going to remain tethered to your egoic desires.<\/p>\n
The sooner you accept this, the better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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