It can be challenging to see improvements in your life if you don’t compare yourself to who you used to be. It can take time to see improvement.
We are really good at focusing on the negative more than the positive. It’s something we have been taught to do growing up.
But the best thing you can do is to train your mind to look at the positive stuff happening in your life right now and give less energy to the negative.
I’m sure your past self will thank you for making progress in life right now as you read this message.
You really have to be better at giving yourself all the credit that you deserve.
These are a few signs that you are doing better than you think.
1) You Make Small Improvements on a Daily Basis.
“The goal is not to be perfect by the end. The goal is to be better today.” ~ Simon Sinek.
Small improvements every day gives you remarkable results in the end.
There are many little ways to improve your life daily such as; reading books, eating healthy, applying wellness, loving yourself, setting goals, saving money, being productive, and learning new skills every day.
If you do a few of these daily routines, you’re doing better than most people.
Most people these days waste their time doing stupid things.
If you do a few of these things every day, it’s a sign that you have made improvements in your life. You are on the right track.
You already have success when you make small improvements each day.
It’s the small things that matter the most.
If you decide to do better every day (or every week), then you have nothing to worry about when it comes to your future. You are already doing everything you need to do to improve your life.
The smarter you are, the more success you will achieve.
It doesn’t cost a dime to try becoming better every day.
Isn’t that amazing?
2) You Have a Few Genuine Friends In Your Life.
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” ~Walter Winchell.
You have realized it’s much better to have a few loyal friends you can count on in life because not everyone has the best intention for you. You become more aware of who you invite into your life.
Sometimes less is better than more.
It’s better to have one loyal friend than one hundred fake friends. The more “friends” you have, the more you will likely experience drama.
You should never strive to be more popular. You should strive to be more authentic and easily attract genuine people into your life.
This is my take on having many friends:
More friends = More drama.
More drama = More stress.
Less friends = Less drama
Less drama = Less stress.
Sometimes the most successful people have only a few friends. I know Oprah only has three friends and has once said this, “Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
Your pet still counts as a genuine friendship (and they can be more loyal than humans)
If you have a few genuine friends, you are more blessed in life than you think.
3) You Are Able To Say “No” When It’s Needed.
“Don’t say maybe if you want to say no.” ~ Paulo Coelho.
It can become tough to say no because you don’t want to disappoint people, but it’s crucial to prioritize yourself first and foremost.
It’s not important to disappoint people. It’s very important never to disappoint yourself. You are moving ahead more than anyone else if you can say no.
Lady Gaga once talked about dealing with struggles in her life and how she realized the true power of saying “No” in her life by saying:
“So what did I do? I started to say ‘no’,” she explained. “I’m not taking that picture. I’m not going to that event. I’m not standing by that because that’s not what I stand for.” — It made her remember who she was, and she gained integrity.
It really takes a lot of courage and strength to say no. If you allow people to disrespect you, you are simply telling them subliminally, “I allow you to treat me like garbage.” when you don’t defend yourself.
Say no, defend yourself, and stand in your truth.
(Disclaimer: Don’t disappoint your loved ones with betrayal)
4) You Have Courage To Ask For Help.
“Sometimes asking for help also means you are helping yourself.” ~ Renuka Pitre.
Even the smartest people don’t know everything and will ask for help.
You never pretend that you are smarter than anyone else. If there is something you didn’t understand, you will ask for clarity. If you are unsure about something, you will be honest about it.
If you need advice on something, you ask your loved ones to hear their opinion on a situation. If you feel miserable, you will call someone for help.
You never allow yourself to handle everything on your own all the time. It can become very lonely and emotionally damaging to yourself if you bottle up everything inside, emotionally.
You realize the first step to healing is purging out all your emotions. Even newborn babies don’t hold their feelings back; if they are sad, they will cry.
I know that some of the most beautiful people are in touch with their emotions and dare to show their vulnerability no matter what.
Haruki Murakami once said, ”What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.”
If you open your heart, you will heal.
5) You Have Removed Toxic People From Your Life.
“The less you respond to negative people, the more powerful your life will become.” ~ Robert E. Baine, Jr.
Whew! What a liberating feeling of removing all the dirt that no longer serves you. You feel happier and more confident in your own skin this time.
It’s like a dark cloud has been removed above you once you remove these psychic vampires who only intend to drain the life out of you.
Take that as a good sign, even if you feel lonely.
Marilyn Monroe once said, “It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone.”
You should only keep those who are serious about changing for the better and show it with action. Leave them alone because they are not worth spending energy on if they refuse to change.
Sometimes your worst enemy is your family members.
It shouldn’t be that way, but it can happen… Let me tell you, removing negative people in my life has made my life so much better, and it will do the same for you.
All you have to do is set healthy boundaries for yourself. You are someone who has the courage to say no and not spend time with those who no longer serve you.
The Bottom Line.
When I’ve applied these simple steps in my life, I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my life; I feel like a brand new person.
Take a look at yourself and see how far you’ve improved from a year ago. Do you see change happening? And how did your life improve?
There is always something positive happening in your life, even if you find it difficult to see it.
The best thing you can achieve from a negative situation is learning the lessons and applying them to create more positive situations in your life.
You really don’t have to doubt yourself.
You are already on the right path.
All you have to do is trust the process.