We all want to live regret-free lives, but how many of us do?
Ask yourself the following: Would you be unhappy with how things ended out if everything were going to end for you tomorrow? For example, what if that drunk driver ran a red light or that asteroid from space struck us?
We all have experienced regret. While some regrets cannot be avoided, others have the power to control our lives.
And what about the regrets we are currently creating?
Let’s take a look at 4 things we can do right away to ensure a happy ending when we write the last chapter of our tale.
1. Take Back Your Life.
The consequences of your actions weigh on you, but are you also the one experiencing them? Do you base your choices on your goals and desires, or do you go with what your mother or father, or husband needs, wants, or expects?
Are you always concerned about what people might think of you if you want to live your life independently?
Imagine how you would feel if you concluded your life without having made any of the crucial choices in it. Life will end one day. You have today to make a change in this.
2. Decide today whether to embrace or reject your dreams.
Do you dream at night? Have you abandoned your dreams just for today or are you still actively pursuing them? The one moment that never arrives is later. You only have the present moment to start taking action.
Therefore, before you finish reading this text and if you want to ensure that you never look back, choose to either abandon your ambition or begin following it right away. In this manner, you will have actively chosen whether to adhere to it or reject it. So either go for it or always find solace in your excuses for not doing it, then let go.
There won’t be any regrets thereafter.
3. Don’t regret your mistakes; instead, learn from them.
Have you ever observed that persons who regret their mistakes also frequently repeat those same errors? Recognizing your error and moving forward are two different things. We do this to ensure that the lesson sticks.
4. Be Afraid of Your Fear.
We have the habit to imagine what could happen after making a choice.
What if I accept that position abroad and I don’t like it or the nation? What if I approach that girl and she declines? What if I mess up? What if others make fun of me?
Years later, when we’re bored with our jobs, we wish we’d traveled more before starting a family. The girl we believed was out of our league may have shown up at the reunion and turned out to be married to someone else. She then confessed that she had always loved you and had never understood why you had never asked her out.
What if you reach the end of your life and realize you’ve wasted it? This is the one what if you should be afraid of.
“Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.” — Don Miguel Ruiz
You are free to return to your frenetic daily routine and go on as usual.
Additionally, you may think about applying for that job, calling up that girl, or beginning your Euro trip by making a phone call to someone and talking about what’s on your mind.
A life of no regrets. It might begin right here, right now.